Yesterday, in Wichita County, Texas, I was given custody of my two boys. Besides feeling relieved that they are no longer under the abusive care of my soon to be ex, I am estatic that they are with me again. I know we are not supposed to advertise here, but i would like to take a moment to thank Mr. Bruce Martin (my new attorney) and suggest him to anyone in this area who is fighting for their kids. He ain’t cheap, but you get what you pay for. Some things I learned from this experience so far:
Document EVERYTHING, regardless of how insignificant;
Become involved at their school (you will get more info about them, and will have some friends when you go to court, I had a lot of the school staff at my hearing yesterday);
Do not become discouraged. Easier said than done, but those that would keep you from you kids depend on you giving up, and then they use the fact that you gave up as proof that you didn’t really want the children to begin with;
Refrain from knee jerk reactions. You WILL be lied to. When dealing with organizations such as CPS or DYFS, find out EXACTLY what they can and can’t do, and if they make an outrageous statement, ask for it in writing. If it is true, they will not hesitate.
Buy a small tape recorder ($25 at any retail store) I do not know about other states, but Texas law says that if ONE party of a conversation knows the conversation is being recorded, it is legal.
Hope this helps, and I will keep ypu updated as I now begin to fight for custody of my non biological daughter, whom I have raised since birth. That will be a long and arduous fight, but I am fortified by my recent victory. I question many time if I was doing the right thing during this, but walking out of that court room with my boys was WELL worth the fight…