The plaintiff in my case has sent me a registered piece of mail that I haven’t gotten yet… I had a downward modification because of my wife’s illness and I have started to pay a little more than my ordered amount.

In the new order I am responsible for paying 1687.00 dollars in back support while I waited to go to court. My lawyer said to pay a little towards that back amount. (a couple of bucks). I guess this month I will need to ask for a cash advance to make my ends meet. I will do it at UtahCashHelp which is my website of choice when it comes to any financial needs in Utah (where I live).

I am guessing that this certified letter is notifying me that she wishes to take it to appellate court. I am so sick of court. On the other hand it could be notice of contempt for not paying 1680.00 or an enforcement…

I sent her my payments with a new p.o. box so I don’t know how easy it will be to have me served…The payments before were threatening to have my family out in the street. Will keep everybody updated.

Yesterday, in Wichita County, Texas, I was given custody of my two boys. Besides feeling relieved that they are no longer under the abusive care of my soon to be ex, I am estatic that they are with me again. I know we are not supposed to advertise here, but i would like to take a moment to thank Mr. Bruce Martin (my new attorney) and suggest him to anyone in this area who is fighting for their kids. He ain’t cheap, but you get what you pay for. Some things I learned from this experience so far:

Document EVERYTHING, regardless of how insignificant;

Become involved at their school (you will get more info about them, and will have some friends when you go to court, I had a lot of the school staff at my hearing yesterday);

Do not become discouraged. Easier said than done, but those that would keep you from you kids depend on you giving up, and then they use the fact that you gave up as proof that you didn’t really want the children to begin with;

Refrain from knee jerk reactions. You WILL be lied to. When dealing with organizations such as CPS or DYFS, find out EXACTLY what they can and can’t do, and if they make an outrageous statement, ask for it in writing. If it is true, they will not hesitate.

Buy a small tape recorder ($25 at any retail store) I do not know about other states, but Texas law says that if ONE party of a conversation knows the conversation is being recorded, it is legal.

Hope this helps, and I will keep ypu updated as I now begin to fight for custody of my non biological daughter, whom I have raised since birth. That will be a long and arduous fight, but I am fortified by my recent victory. I question many time if I was doing the right thing during this, but walking out of that court room with my boys was WELL worth the fight…

You want to claim that her expenses actually support your argument that she has income she is not reporting. That could be tough without an accountant and she could always lie about how she covers the expenses.

However, the bigger issue is the best interests of the child – money is only a small factor and the fact that she will lose money on the deal will not be very important to the court. Be prepared to show how you are raising your child. Plenty of people with little money do an excellent job of child rearing so I wouldn’t pin my hopes on just showing that she is in it for the cash.

I go back to court Monday fighting for custody of my daughter (12) who lives with me full time. My ex is fighting but it’s really about the money she’ll lose and unfortunately not because she cares for our daughter.

She is claiming hardship while I’m claiming she has unreported income. I’m looking for Californina case law or decisions that attribute income based on regular expenses that meet claimed income.

This is really about me being able to financially support our daughter instead of the ex.

Thanks in advance

I strongly suspect you’ll have to take her to court and it could be expensive. Even if she doesn’t get additional state aid, you’re still going to be paying her child support which is non-taxable so why should she give up the child.

My recommendation is that you hire an attorney and be prepared for a lengthy court fight.

As an alternative, if the two of you live near each other, consider joint custody with alternating week visitation. Its not all that you want but its better than weekends.

And I wouldn’t discuss the matter with your girlfriend any further without talking to the attorney first.

Assuming there are no restrictions on your right of visitation, I’d say that your ex’s position is not legit. However, if she refuses to let your current significant other see the child, you could be stuck. Find out from the police department in the town where your ex is living whether they intervene in these situations and the type of proof that they might require to enforce visitation. If they do intervene, make sure you get a certified copy of your visitation agreement that shows that you have visitation rights.

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The other alternative is to file a Motion for Order with the court (you can do this pro se) asking the judge to prohibit your ex from interfering with the visitation (the downside being that you probably have to appear in the Florida court). Do this well in advance of the visitation to give the judge time to issue the order.

Me and my ex were getting along just fine working things out about the baby that we are having together who is due in about 4 weeks when a few days ago me and her Aunt got into an argument so now my ex has filed an order of protection against me and is going to try to keep me from my son.

Everything she said in the order of protection was a lie. If there is anything I can do what can I do because I do want to see my son.

After the baby is born I already have it set up to go to court for custody of my son. Please help me! She has done this same thing to her ex-husband who was the guy before me.

If your state is like most staes at your PFA hearing I would have your attorney make a motion for a DEMAND FOR SHOW OF PROOF as in I demand u prove what your saying is true.

good luck!

I have fought my ex and her attorney alone. I have gotten to the court to order a custody study to determine which is the better environment for the children. it does come with a price tag, mine is $3600.00.

but in the end, if I can get my children then it will be worth it all. I did have to work two jobs 7 days a week to pay for it, but it is what I had to do. best of luck to you.

if I can answer anything for you I will.

I just found this club today and started reviewing the posts. I’m very glad to have found such an informative website.

I live in Montreal, Canada. I have a very unique situation involving my 2 y/o daughter. I’m going to court on Oct 30th to try to regain her custody.

I care for my daughter from her birth (April 2014) till Sept 2015 while her mom was away right after the hospital, I donno where. On the weekday I go to work and left my daughter with her maternal grandma. On the weekend I would bring her back to my apartment. During that period, I paid $200.00 or as much that I could per month to the grandma for her help.

On Sept 2015, the mother of my daughter grab her away and start giving me so much trouble to see her as she live with her new boyfriend. Since Dec 2015, I was unable to see my daughter at all. Due to financial difficulty I hesitated to hire a lawyer and tried to get help through other sources but unsuccessful. I did hired a lawyer on April 2015 because I really had to see her on her birthday. I wasn’t able to see her on her birthday but was able to see her for 2 weekend out of 3 for 4 weekend till I went broke. On June, I discontinue the case after the bill went above $2000.00 and my bank account zip out.

In short, I worry about my daughter well-being, mental health and safety, not to mention I crave to see her again as the mother is mentally unstable and practicing prostitution. If anyone think they can help with any advice please email me.

Thank you.

If this is a recent ruling and the lower court, you probably have some time to appeal to a higher court. Of course it may be more money for her lawyer… but you can always pay him/her slowly…If you can, it might be a good idea as it could save you money over a long run or again the new court may uphold the lower court.

I imagine that Alaska has a child support chart as all states do. Sometimes lawyers especially for the other side will try to make an agreement outside of that chart which can happen through intimidation and steamrolling. If you agree to pay more than the chart, than that ends up being the stipulation…If you lose your job, or if her economic situation changes, new job etc, then you can ask for a modification. You can do it Pro-se no lawyer.

In some states if there is a modification of child support only there is no filing fee. She will however probably have that same lawyer…unless he thinks you pay too slowly…Good Luck. Eventually all children grow into adulthood and everything does pass.

Thank you for the input! My current lawyer thinks it would be unwise to appeal the decision as the same judge will hear it. However My current lawyer also failed to provide the court with the documentation showing my current wage and what it computes to in child support. For that matter the years earnings that my child support was based on is the year previous to my daughters birth.

A year I worked two jobs and lots of overtime.I did get awarded 35% of travel expenses as I live 375 miles from my daughter. However that is to be deducted from my yearly income for computation purposes.Even then I still would pay nearly 100$ more a month. Yes you are right all children grow into adulthood but it is the years in between my daughter will need me the most.